Monday, 27 July 2015

The Unpopulars Have Spoken

I found this cute Unpopular Opinions tag on Olivia's blog and I decided to give it a shot. Get ready for a whole lot of Unpopular Opinions... if you agree with me, do let me know.

A popular book/series you didn't like:

The Fault in Our Stars. Please explain the hype for this? The plot was a HUGE cliche, the foreshadowing was just terrible and it was so obvious Gussy was going to die, the characters were inconsistent and simply unlikeable, and well, more ranting later.

A popular author you can't seem to get into:

John Green. Are all of my answers going to be about his books?

A love triangle where the protagonist ended up with the person you didn't want them to be with: 

Okay, so I've never actually watched or read the Twilight series. I've seen the Honest Trailer for each, and to be honest, that's PLENTY for me. But what I can decipher from what I've seen is that I like the werewolf better than the vampire.

A popular genre you hardly read:

I read a bit of everything, honestly, so this question is NA.

A popular/beloved character you dislike:

First of all,, Tris from Divergent. She makes me too angry so I will not talk about her, however I will talk to you about YA's favourite couple, Hazel Grace Just Friends Lancaster and August Preachy Metaphors Waters. They are simply unlikeable. Hazel? You went from "just friends" to after two days in fantasyland, lovers and...well.... ugh. Augustus? I`m sorry. But I found you really, really pretentious.

A popular series you have no interest in reading:

The Selection, Divergent, Twilight, anything with a love triangle....

A show/movie adaptation you liked better than the book:

This is completely NA. BOOKS ARE BETTER AND THAT`S THAT

A popular trope you're tired of reading:

Look at me! I`m a sixteen year old white girl with perfect hair and perfect teeth. My BFF is slightly boy-crazy. I`m going to a beach this summer and it`s going to change my life. Oh look! A hot guy! I`m going to flirt with him. HE LIKES ME OMG OMG OMG. But what about the cutie lifeguard? OH NO THEY BOTH LIKE MEEEEEE :(

A popular style of cover you can't stand:

This is a long list.

-symbols that involve fire
-one body part, like an eye
-holding hands
-feet dangling over a dock, very clearly two boy feet and one pair of girl feet. like ew
-blonde girls half naked riding a bicycle
-people kissing on a beach

I'm not tagging anybody, but this was super fun, so go for it guys!

-Oakstar

(ps my opinions are not meant to offend anyone and I'm not insulting cancer victims by insulting Hazel Grace)

And if you're in love with Augustus Waters and feel offended on a personal level....


Saturday, 25 July 2015

Differences

In which I bring you a post about my experiences embracing different opinions.

Note- this was a guest post swap. Be sure to check out GirlRadio's blog and her post on my blog a little while ago.

Hello, readers of Nerd Glasses and Wanderlust! It’s Oakstar from Amazing Case of Wanderlust here
today. GirlRadio and I have been corresponding a lot through e-mail, and when we decided to do a post swap, we thought it would be a bit of a boring idea to just do, you know, a swap.
So, we bring you our newly created hashtag, and our posts that will be about embracing diversity and
difference.
My post, to start it off, will be about dealing with people’s differences of opinions. Being in high school and also very well in tune with the world around me through social media and the news, I have a lot of experiences that have to do with dealing with someone who has a different opinion than mine - about something more important than just a favorite color or book.
Through my experiences, I’ve learned a lot and I’ve grown to accept and embrace people’s different
opinions - while I may disagree with, or even, in very hard cases which I will get into later, be appalled by their opinions, I can still love and appreciate them as a person.
When I first went into the seventh grade, I was much younger in body and mind, and I hadn’t yet been introduced to people of many different belief systems, upbringings, and backgrounds.
Some important things to remember while disagreeing with someone:
-Stand up for your beliefs, but don’t shove them down someone else’s throat
-If someone else’s opinion is downright malicious or really not okay (ex: someone says they hate
everyone with a darker skin color), it is out of what you should deal with and you should talk to a
adult about it
-Be respectful while telling them you disagree
-If someone is really stubborn, it's best not to bring up controversial topics at all. If they are standing up for a view that is completely and utterly the opposite of your beliefs and values, it's best to put some space between you and them or keep topics light and fluffy

Scenario 1:
Situation: I’m in the girls’ locker room after gym on a Friday, and me and a friend I’ll call Laura have started a conversation about our new science topic, evolution. I mention how I find the topic truly
fascinating, how we’ve originated from apes. Laura scornfully replies, “Pshh. It’s so obvious we don’t come from monkeys. It’s stupid. They’re animals, we’re humans. We come from Adam and Eve.”

My reaction: “They’re not monkeys, Laura. And you think coming from monkeys is stupid? What about seven billion people coming from only two? It just doesn’t make sense.”  Laura gives me an angry look.

What I should’ve said: “I disagree. I believe in evolution. It’s not cool that you’re dissing my beliefs.
That’s not respectful. I’m going to go now, bye.” This would’ve let her know that I don’t think it’s okay what she said, but I still get to be respectful, and I don’t stoop down to her level.

Lesson: Instead of attacking someone back and stooping down to their level, I’ve learned to keep my
calm and be the bigger, better person. I don’t speak to Laura as much anymore, but I still love her as the human being she is. I don’t mind if someone has different beliefs, but I can’t allow anyone to insult mine.

Scenario 2:
Situation: I’m talking to two of my close friends - Rachel and Kerry - in a quiet corner at our school dance.
Rachel’s drink spills. She swears under her breath and Kerry and I gasp. A few younger passersby chant, "She said the s-word!" repeatedly.
“Oh wait - oops. Girls shouldn’t swear. It’s not proper. Boys can get away with it," Rachel says quickly.

My reaction: I open my mouth to say something, but then close it again. I want to say something, but I can’t. I’m too appalled.

What I should’ve said: I’m a feminist, meaning I believe that women and men should be treated equally. I should’ve said what I wanted to say, stood up for what I believed. I should’ve said: “Sadly, that is what society thinks. I believe in equal treatment, though, and it makes no difference whether a boy or girl swears. Neither is polite, but the politeness doesn’t change.”

Lesson: I’ve learned to stand up for what I believe in. I won’t hide my true self anymore. I’m still friends with Rachel, but I look at her in a different way. If a feminist topic ever comes up again, I will be sure to say what I believe.

Scenario 3:
Situation: I’m in the library with Rachel and Kerry. Kerry is talking about how she adores the Rick
Riordan books, and she’s grown interested in Greek mythology because of them. She says how she
thinks he is super talented. Then, Rachel cuts her off and says: “No, he’s not. He’s not creative at all. He’s just stealing the creation of the Greeks. The money should be going to the Greeks.”

My reaction: I’ve never been a huge fan of the Percy Jackson series, but I still thought that he deserved the credit. “I disagree,” I said. “There are plenty of other authors who have used mythology in their books, too, and they are still creative. He works hard and his characters and situations are plenty creative. Plus, the Greeks that created what’s used in his works died a long time ago, and it’s not the property of their great great great grandchildren.”

What I should’ve said: I’m proud of what I said, and I stand by it. I was mature, not unreasonable, and I gave my opinion.

Lesson: If I give my opinion while holding my tongue at the same time, I can achieve a lot more satisfaction. Yay me!

Scenario 4: The Toughest, But The One I Am The Most Proud Of
Situation: It’s June 26th, and it’s a pretty good day for me because I’ve just heard America has finally legalized same sex marriage. I call my best friend the next day with the good news. She replies with a shrug, then goes on to say that she doesn’t really support same sex marriage, but she will never speak up against it because it is not her place.

My reaction: I’m surprised, but I tell her calmly: “I believe that love always wins and God would want people to marry who they want. I’m pretty passionate about this, but your friendship means way too much to me to get into an argument, especially when it is about faith and things so personal that will never change. I disagree with you, but I love you.”

What I should’ve said: This was the most difficult one for me. It was an ethical dilemma. Should I choose my best friend, who I love to death, who shares a super close bond with me and we have so many memories together, or do I choose to defend a topic that I believe so strongly in to the bottom of my heart? I chose the medium. I told her I disagree with her, and that it is a topic really close to my heart, but I chose to keep a precious relationship instead of ruin it. I am really proud of what I chose.

Lesson: There is a medium to strive for, and it is possible to find it. She and I are still just as close. Picking what’s important is hard, but it is possible to find a way to make it work. This may seem like a reflection on my actions, but even if your beliefs are different, there is a lesson in this for all of us. Even if you share Rachel’s and Laura’s beliefs, you can still choose to embrace the diversity, agree to disagree, and love each other just as much. Talking about personal things is tough, but even when you disagree, with respect and love, your relationships don’t have to change.

Next time you face a challenge similar to some of my scenarios, document it and reflect. I’m not perfect, but I’ve definitely improved on embracing diversity in the past year. If we all took something out of these lessons, the world would be a much better place.

Together we can strive for a world with more compassion and love, no matter what your beliefs.

#togetherwecan

-Oakstar

Thursday, 16 July 2015

Dancing In The Rain




In all honesty, I sometimes need this reminder in my life.

In all honesty, I'm pretty sure so do you.

Sadness, anger. Those are parts of life that we cannot escape. They are healthy emotions we all have to feel at one point. The troubles are never going to end completely, and those emotions are going to be with us for the rest of our lives.

If you keep them buried down deep, you're going to turn into this:




And then:


But if you are in a complete pool of negativity and depression, you're going to turn into this:



Side note: Both of these movies are amazing!

This post was inspired by Inside Out, by the weather we had a few weeks ago, things that are going on in my life right now, and the anniversary of Talia Joy's death.

Sometimes, I forget to think positive. My life seems like a disaster, I don't know my purpose, I'm lost, everything's going wrong. I forget to think about the good things that happen to me everyday.

And then sometimes, I push problems aside, sweep them under the rug. I force myself to forget about all of my troubles. I don't acknowledge them at all. I may be pretending and lying to myself about how happy I am, when deep down, I'm not happy at all.

But most of the time, I have a balance. I'm able to make the best out of situations, acknowledge that things are going wrong, and I'm not afraid to look for comfort and shed a few tears. 

Finding a balance in between joy and sadness, optimism and pessimism, is important. And that is what dancing in the rain is all about.

Being able to look at your troubles and say "This absolutely sucks. But I can handle it." 
Being able to admit "I need to cry and hug someone right now."
Being able to hold your head up high and say "This is bad. But something else is good."

That is so important in life! Finding a balance.

How does this relate to dancing in the rain?

Imagine the rain is a metaphor for the troubles you have in your life right now. You see it. You know it's there. You can either wallow in depression because you can't run around and feel the sun on your back, walk outside in a bathing suit and freeze yourself to death, or you can put on a raincoat, go outside, and dance and sing in the rain. 

That's right. You're experiencing joy in the midst of sadness. And that is when everything is balanced and beautiful.

It would be great if everything could be joyful and wonderful and happy. But without sadness, we wouldn't know what joy even is.

There's always something to smile about. So smile when you're sad. And don't let anyone tell you it's not okay to be sad about something troublesome. It's a healthy emotion. Let it out, so you don't explode.

So next time it's raining, I dare you to go dance in the rain.

Smile!

-Oakstar



Monday, 13 July 2015

It's My Blog Birthday!

Where do I begin?

I guess I shall start with thank yous. I'd like to thank....

You. Yes, you, reading this right now. You took time out of your super busy life to read these exact words, written by a tween who doesn't know how to make grilled cheese sandwiches. You have made my day.

Every single follower. All twenty one of you have made me so happy. During the early months of blogging, every time my number of followers went up, it made me so incredibly happy and I'd even squeal with excitement. Yes, I would squeal.

In particular, I thank Morningtime4 and Jollygirl, my first two followers, who helped me get my foot (out/in?) the door. They supported me from the beginning.

There a few apologies I'd like to make as well.

One, to everyone who nominated me with an award that I didn't do. I'm very very sorry. I wish I did all of them, but I'm not sure how many readers I'd have if my posts were solely dedicated to tags.

Another one goes out to Jollygirl, the only participant of a photography contest I had a while back. With only one entry, I was so discouraged I forgot about the contest. Her entry was beautiful. Here it is, and I'm truly sorry Jollygirl:



My last one goes out to me. I was hoping my 100th post would be on my blog birthday, but I did not achieve that. I am very close though, and now that I have more followers, I'm going to organize a new contest and the winners will be announced on my 100th instead.

I have so many more post ideas. This is only a start. I can't wait to share the rest of my journey here on the blogging world with you lovely readers.

Before I leave, I've scrolled through a lot of my old posts and decided you don't know as much about me as I thought. So, today, I'm doing my own fifty facts challenge for myself. Are you ready? Yeah, you are, but probably I'm not.

1. I'm a type 4.

2. The MBTI test is my preferred personality test.

3. I'm an ENFJ.

4. The celebrity I look most like is probably Georgie Henley. I looked like her at Lucy's age in the first Narnia movie, and I still sort of look like her tweenager self right now.


5.  I have recently become super interested in cooking and baking. I love experimenting in the kitchen.

6. Apparently, the Disney princess I'm most like is Anna.

7. I'm always reading at least two books at a time.

8. Currently, I'm reading Jane Eyre, And Then There Were None, and Eragon.

9. Just like everyone else, I am totally in love with all the gifs with this cat in them: 


10. My favourite youtuber currently is Matthew Santoro, followed by Superwoman and Jacksfilms.

11. I judge people really quickly- never by looks or stereotypes, but by their actions and inner readings. And I'm right 98% of the time.

12. I am completely and totally average sized for my age. 

13. I am so anti-superstitious I will walk under ladders and spill salt on purpose sometimes.

14. I completely and without hesitation support gay rights. Two thumbs up for equality.

15. My favourite Doctor Who monster is the Sontaran.


16. Pottermore has deemed me to be a Gryffindor, but I relate more to Ravenclaw in general. However, I trust Rowling's assessment.

17. I can't wait for Career of Evil to come out AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

18. It is one of my biggest dreams to be on the reality show Survivor. It is completely different than anything else ever created and I'm totally obsessed with it. Problems with this: I'm Canadian, I'm a minor, and Jeff Probst is getting old. JEFF DO NOT GET OLD ON ME OKAY I NEED TO BE ON YOUR SHOW

19. I'd be more than happy to discuss a controversial topic with you. Shoot me an e-mail at amazingcaseofwanderlust@gmail.com . Keep it respectful though please. 

20. In real life, I'm dry and sarcastic, yet still kind and loving to the people around me.

21. I have a mix of girl and guy friends. I have more girl friends, but I am not stuck to one gender while trying to make new friends.

22. Knowing my weaknesses is one of my strengths.

23. My latest cooking endeavor was soup and it turned out magnificently.

24. I believe in a greater, higher power but I do not place myself in one religion.

25. I'm regretting this a little. 

26. I am boycotting Doctor Who until Clara leaves the show, or at least gets better.

27. Wild raspberries grow in my backyard. When I grow enough of them, I will make jam and do a DIY here on the blog.

28. I am fluent in English and French, and I am learning ASL right now. I already know a lot of signs.



29. The Impossible Quiz really makes me angry.

30. In my opinion, the best Voice Kids is Australia.

31. Hermione and Ron make the best couple ever.

32.  My inside jokes with my friends are probably the weirdest ones ever.

33. Team Taylor.

34. My favourite sports are swimming and badminton.

35. I believe in perfect imperfections.

36. This is my 82nd blog post.

37. I might fall nine times a day but I get up ten times.

38. I am extremely active in the summer but not as much in the winter. 

39. My preferred art out of music, drama, visual arts, and dancing is drama. 

40. I usually get up at around 8:30am on the weekends.

41. It is impossible to label me.

42. I sing everywhere I go- absolutely random lyrics. I'm terrible but it's something I love.

43. For a blogger, I'm not extremely techy. 

44. My favourite colours are white, purple, and teal.

45. One day, I'd love to paint my room white so I could write notes and poems on it.

46. My tablet takes the most amazing photos. I'm not that skilled but my photos turn out professional. 

47. Toddlers and Tiaras is such a train wreck that I actually watched more than one episode.

48. I absolutely love the actress Vanessa Marano. She plays Bay Kennish in Switched at Birth, the only abc family show I actually watch. 


49. Three words to describe me: empathetic, confident, and sarcastic

50. It's my first blog birthday!



On a closing note of this rather long post, I just wanted to say how much I love all of you bloggers and if I could meet every single on you in person, I would. Thank you so much for joining me on my journey. It's been an honour to share the past year with you and I can't wait for more years like this to come.

Smile!

-Oakstar


Saturday, 11 July 2015

GirlRadio's Takeover

Hey, internet geeks!

GirlRadio and I have decided to do a guest post swap on each others' blogs. Except... we didn't want it to be just a regular guest post swap about something random. So, after a bit of thinking, we created a new hashtag about embracing diversity. Everytime I take on a post about embracing differences and loving unconditionally, or simply about what people together can do, I'll be branding it with the tag #togetherwecan.

This is a little challenge GirlRadio and I took on for ourselves, but feel free to join! Write a post related to this topic, and send us a link to it through the comments! I'd love to hear what you have to say. Let us set the blogging community on fire, shall we?

Let's give it away to GirlRadio!!!
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​Hello everyone! I'm GirlRadio from Nerd Glasses and Wanderlust and I'm doing a guest post swap with the amazing Oakstar. We've been blogging buddies for almost a year, despite us living in different countries and being roughly 3,000 miles apart. 

Here's a few fun facts about me - I love Superwoman videos and ​cookies 'n' cream ice cream, plus my birthday is the eighth-least common in the US. I love to perform, write, code, blog, travel, and I'm quite a chatterbox. I also enjoy roller coasters, animals doing funny things (don't get me started on llamas and elephants), and reading.

​So let me get into the actual post​.

You may know that Oakstar and I have launched a hashtag, #TogetherWeCan, to inspire everyone and show them the strength in numbers. We also set our minds on a growing problem, intolerance of diversity. We believe while this problem cannot be entirely diminished, it's a cause worth fighting for - and #TogetherWeCan is our best effort toward it. So I have few words on this topic.

The United States and Canada have been subject to a lot of immigration from those of foreign citizenship who seek a better life - causing these nations to be seen as melting pots of cultures. What does that mean? Everywhere you go, the faces you see are colorful, you hear languages beside English, and the people you meet have lived in many different places. This diversity makes our lives more interesting. I can't imagine living somewhere in which everyone was the same. 

Suppose a few friends and I were partners for a country report project and were discussing which country to report on. Say I proposed Germany, but my friend Kate said that Germany was boring and that we should do Australia. I'm not German, but let me step into that role; the best response I can think of would be, "I'm German, and I'm offended by that. I think it's best to be more open-minded - if you give Germany a chance, you might find that you're very interested in the country! I'm willing to research Australia; I just think your statement was a little harsh."  Just this difference of opinion can be considered diversity. And it can be a good thing. Maybe you wind up doing Australia for your project, and you really like it! Getting a response across that makes it clear that you were offended without being rude can be challenging, but you can do it. 

If you live by these words and embrace differences, then you'll gain a better understanding of the world. Some are still stuck on a phase, thinking that everyone is merely a carbon copy of each other.

Think of all of the diversity out there. Diversity is, to me, a bite out of our small yet big world.
Shine on,GirlRadio

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Thanks so much GirlRadio, that was superb! Also, feel free to check out my post on her blog, as well as her blog in general if you haven't yet seen it. 

Smile!

-Oakstar

Wednesday, 8 July 2015

Chase for Chastity: A Blog Like No Other

Let's just cut right to the chase, shall we?

author's note: I didn't even notice the pun

My two best friends, the lovely Abbi and the lovely Liva, have recently started a blog about their views- on everything. They talk about topics ranging from chastity and defining yourself to the best ways to make summer popsicles. Everything they talk about, however, has one sole goal: To help and improve the lives of teenagers everywhere. 

They express their views on beauty, talking about how looking for and finding beauty inside other people can only lead to a happier, more loving life, and on modesty, how it's important to represent teens by being respectful to themselves and others. They talk about how music uplifts their souls, and  how teenage girls have a role to show younger girls how to live.

They talk about kindness and love, cherishing others and themselves. Breaking stereotypes, and great summer colors. 

There's a TON of variety.

Let me take a moment to rave about the two authors as well, okay? Both of them are extremely talented writers, Liva's in the midst of publishing a book and Abbi's a very skilled poet, and they are the most loving, most kind girls I have ever met. We all live very far away from each other, having all met in California for Discovery Girls magazine last summer.

Both of them are pretty cool, the two of them. They raise chickens, are not afraid to swim in ice cold water, and have the most honorable intentions and goals set for their lives. They are not afraid to be themselves, strive for a better life, and everything they do is for God. They come from two different religions, but are open to various belief systems and atheism.

Bottom line, they are amazing, and so is their blog! Please click here, here, or here to go check out their stuff. Trust me, you won't regret it.

Love,

Oakstar



Wednesday, 1 July 2015

It's Canada Day, Eh!

Good morning fellow bloggers! I only have fifteen minutes of WiFi on this public computer I'm using to type this post- so I'm really, really, really sorry if this post turns out to be horrible.

Do I apologize too much? I'm sorry if I do.

So, this, morning, the lovely Canada Day, I was awoken by the sound of polar bears roaring and having a fight outside my lovely little igloo in the middle of nowhere- full of snow and ice. One of them is my pet- his name is Maple- and one of them is a stray... I know, it's crazy, eh?

I immediately got dressed in my polar bear and beaver skins, and went outside where my father was carving some sea lion tusks into bowls. My mother was boiling maple syrup, and that's what we had for breakfast- pure maple goodness.

After breakfast, I raced down to the hockey rink- the only sports area in a million kilometers, and practiced hockey with every other Canadian across my home and native land- we all are on a first name basis, you know, because we're so few, and we're all super polite. Everyone's so nice.

I LOVE HOCKEY. SO MUCH. It's what I'm all aboot! 

After hockey practice, I raced home again for a lunch of poutine with moose meat in it. It's basically a staple around here. Then, after that, my dad taught me how to use a bow and arrow, so I'll be able to catch the few prey around here: sea lions, moose, polar bears, and beavers. 

For dinner, we had some more poutine, then bundled up in more skins and went outside to watch the red, white, and red fireworks light up the sky.

Then, I went to bed again. It was a pretty eventful day!

I'm really, really sorry for the short post, you guys. Thanks so much for reading it! thank you thank you thank you thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



SURPRISE!!!!!!!

In honor of Canada Day, I decided to try and write a post about what my life would be like if the Canadian stereotypes were true. As I figured, this is nothing what I'm like. The person writing this post is basically my alter-ego.

It's official. My alter-ego is a stereotypical Canadian girl.

I love being Canadian. I have an amazing culture and a great, rich history. I'll always be proud of my home and native land, and while other nationalities might poke fun at us, we'll always take it in a lighthearted way.

Because we're Canadians, and we rock.


Not mine

-Oakstar